The Journey of Sailing through the Hiccups of Marital Life
Marriage is very different today than it was a hundred years ago. The roles of husband and wife are more unclear, and our society seems to have no set rules for them. Even so, most people have great expectations for romantic satisfaction within marriage, as well as high hopes for healing and personal development. each partner yearns consciously or unconsciously , for the other to heal their early childhood wounds, and to love, accept and cherish them.
THE JOURNEY OF MARRIAGE
The marriage journey is a hero’s and heroine’s journey with many adventures including the experience of facing your fears, finding courage, discovering mentors, learning new skills, and dying to your old sense of self which feels something like depression before it feels like a new and more vital life. it will take time to go on this adventure, but it is a worthy human endeavor . It has the potential to transform your experience of love into something much more intense you could ever imagine.
MARRIAGES ARE NOT SMOOTH
The path of the romantic hero and heroine is not supposed to be a smooth ride. There are no shortcuts. Seeing the world, yourself, and your partner from a bigger perspective is always an intense process of stretching and letting go. Understanding our process for encountering and resolving those experiences in the context of adult development will allow you to reflect on your own life, and inspire you to use the challenges in your marriage for improvement and growth in your romantic relationship.
IDENTIFY THE CORE UNDERLYING CAUSE OF CONFLICTS
In every marriage, there are issues that create the same fight over and over again. The fight may take different forms and appear in different situations, but it remains the same conflict at the core. Think about your own marriage and your repeated patterns of unhappiness. A deep commitment to resolve those underlying issues in marriage requires each husband and wife to undertake a healing journey as an individual, and a combined healing journey as partners.
MARITAL JOURNEY IS DIFFERENT FOR BOTH MEN & WOMEN
The hero’s journey is somewhat different for a man and a woman. After a man learns competence in his 20’s and 30’s, he needs to learn humility in later years. After a woman learns connection, she she need to find her voice in her 30’s and 40’s. Difficult episodes and life transitions are inevitable in romantic partnerships. The idea that something should not be happening to us on this journey, or that we don’t deserve this emotional pain comes from that part of us that strives to preserve our ego’s limited perspective. This attitude blocks the healing progress on the healing journey. From our point of view as a selfish, self centered egocentric being, we are constantly being short changed, cheated, mistreated, and not valued as highly as we expect. From a bigger perspective, as God might look at us, we need to be worked on, cracked, molded, and transformed into a wise and loving being.
The emotional and cognitive development that is stimulated by the conflicts of two personalities in partnership and the simultaneous desire for love and family is both intense and rewarding. It is the catalyst for healing and deepening love. Our purpose is to support your journey so that you fulfill the potential of your marriage